My child’s newest fascination is to climb up on a chair we have in our guest room, turn on the radio and dance, dance, dance. And my girl…is tribal. In between body rolls, head swerves and swanky footwork, she throws all of my books off the shelf. I think it helps her to feel as though she is at a rave.
I was chaperoning her dance party and the “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle was chunked at me.
He says two things that I find so powerful:
“enlightenment” is simply being close to God and
“prayer” is simply being present
I look up and see my daughter rockin’ out and something clicks. My daughter does not know how not to pray, nor does she know separation from God. She prays and moves with the Divine with every movement, in every moment. She unconsciously expects this intimate connection.
I don’t believe it is coincidental that she is also the most loving, forgiving person I know. And I don’t accept the simple explanation that she is this way because she is “JUST” a child. It makes sense to me that if you are constantly in prayer and your mind cannot fathom separation from God, that unconditional love and forgiveness are simply by-products of this way of being.
And of course my child throws fits, and gets mad and swings and scowls at me. To me, she is simply learning to navigate this world, setting her boundaries, acquiring what she needs/wants, protecting herself. To me, this is not evidence of a sinful nature. I must remember that just two short years ago, she was in soul form where she knew none of the rules of this world. She didn’t know what it was like to be “in body”, had never felt need, want, fear, cold, hunger, loneliness, vulnerability. All things that I thirty two years later still have trouble communicating pleasantly and politely.
Most of the parenting strategies I read are based on teaching our children the language and survival skills of our adult world. And of course, I want my daughter to know how to navigate this world successfully. But very few, are parenting strategies helping us as parents to help our children to hold onto their peaceful, creative, kind, forgiving, loving hearts that they came here with. And I have find it ironic that all of the adults i know, myself included are desperate to be more peaceful, loving, kind, meditative, prayerful, creative, get out of our heads, feel, breathe, connect to God.
So I wonder….
Maybe if i quiet the urgency to move her along
Maybe if i silence the avalanche of milestones she needs to reach
Maybe if i allow her to be
Maybe if i allow myself to join
Maybe if i remind myself that despite the small frame, jumbled words and awkward movements, she is a soul with a spiritual depth that I can only hope to acquire before my time here is complete…
Maybe if I can preserve this in her, by SEEING it, NURTURING it, CULTIVATING this in myself…
Maybe we can CREATE adults that don’t SEARCH for God/Peace, but instinctually KNOW
Maybe we can BE adults that don’t SEARCH for God/Peace, but instinctually KNOW
I imagine this would change the world.
If our job as parents is to help our children acclimate to this world,maybe their job as children is to remind us of home, what is beyond. Our children can remind us of the innate connection to God we all have, the ease and the depth that God moves through us. (if we allow them) They are little guides that show us by example, the simplicity of prayer and enlightenment. They are magnificent, full, complex beings.
Sweet angels, we cherish you.
*note: the use of “God” above was used in a way to incorporate your own unique understanding of “what is beyond”